Over the 25 years I have been coaching individuals and teams in organisations, and I have learned that there is one thing that makes a huge difference to the quality and effectiveness of my coaching practice. That is the extent of my self-awareness in the moment.
The success of any coaching relationship has as much to do with how I am being as it has to do what what I am doing.
My ‘beingness’ has an impact on the coaching relationship in the following ways;
- The more curious and interested I am, the more comfortable and trusting the relationship between coach and coachee becomes.
- The greater my willingness to be vulnerable, the more I use my authentic voice and speak my truth, the easier it is for the coachee to do the same
- The more respect I have for the coachee’s point of view – even when I don’t agree with it – the less need they have to defend or assert a position and the easier it becomes for them to question their own thinking.
- The more aware I am of my own assumptions and judgments, the less need I feel to give advice and the more mental space I have to listen and appreciate.
Taking some time before beginning a coaching session to let go of the mind chatter and be present is one of the most important things you can do for your client.
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